Typically we have two holidays each year to honor our parents. But, the sad news is there is more opportunities for all of us to show our appreciation for the love (and many other blessings) we received from our parents to a world of great kids that have no parents to love.
Scripture reminds us in Ephesus: Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.”
To often we are concerned in what is good for us, and in a world that shares a lot of kids that have no parents or even a chance of a normal life, we should be thankful for our parents.
What does the Bible say about fathers? God has made him your father for a reason, and you will be blessed for honoring him. Exodus 20:12 Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you. Proverbs 23:22 Listen to your father, who gave you life, and do not despise your mother when she is old.
I am certain that many today would reflect good and bad responses to these verses, as all of us travel different journeys from our birth to adulthood. No one has the perfect parents but I am certain like myself where I didn’t see the flaws in my parents or even the challenges that they endured- because they wanted me to see the world through guarded eyes and have special memories to share with my children.
After many of my own failed attempts in relationships, I can clearly understand why my children were frustrated with me and I traveled a difficult journey than what I desired.
But I still can remember growing up as a boy where I cannot recall even once not getting something I wanted that would cause me to hate my parents.
Oh, I sure would have liked more time with both my parents, but I understand better as a big brother that helping my parents with my brothers was a chore then – but I never was ever separated from them till I joined the military.
What is significant is that we had many moms and dads in our lives watching out for us through our whole childhood. Today we see so many kids that are described as latch key who defend for themselves because of difficult circumstances in relationships and financial problems.
In just a few decades, all of us could be writing this story. But the big question is was I/we honoring our parents when we should and if we could go back in time, would we have acted differently?
I have seen both sides of this story and it is sad because a few possible changes in everyone’s choices could brought better results.
Time does fly by quickly and if we don’t do what we were asked to do from the beginning, we all share the fault somehow. It’s when we learn to forgive and love one another that brings better chances for sunshine versus doom and gloom all over again.
I will admit there is a lot of pain in this world, but possibly if we could look at all the roads that lead us to where we currently are today, we could see where wrong turns that lead us to difficult places, all of us would wish to hit the rewind button.
I find myself today many years later, apologizing to my father for not being there more and only hearing him reply, “ it’s okay, I have you now, and I don’t want to go back to the past, I want to move forward in our relationship.
I love every minute I spend with my dad, and I apologize a lot and he forgives me every time. I don’t disagree with him, because it’s not really important in the big picture, because I cherish every moment I can have with him.
I also cherish every moment I have with my children and my grandchildren because they are special. Time is not forever as I remember burying my mother many years ago.
I loved her but our relationship had become distant till she shared with me why. I cried when I heard something I could have done to keep our relationship in tact, but it was to late.
Today I have some autistic kids in my life that lost their parents, and I give them all the love and attention humanly possible. Their grandma tells me, “those boys honor you.” And all I do is smile. You see all of us have the opportunity to make someone’s life a little bit better- and it’s possible we are allowing them to love and honor through difficult circumstances but they are attempting to do what (God) was asking all of us to do from the beginning.
I am certain apologies are still acceptable in our lives but, are we willing to work out the differences to get new beginnings?
I do know one Father who will help you in any difficulty you are facing to a better sunshiny day, and perhaps we should make a Happy Fathers Day greeting for him – because He is our Father!
Happy Fathers Day to all and thanks to all those dads who look to share their hearts with other kids!